putting yourself out there

A few weeks ago I cared about my hair, obsessed about my hair. The rockstar who’d tamed my curls with the flick of a wrist had gone missing.  You all know the story and the happy ending. Blog readers scoured the internet and databases to find me her email address and phone number. She’s no longer doing hair, I learned. Today, gasp, I did my own, despite a photoshoot with USA TODAY. I have two words for you: fr-izz. I will live, but if said rockstar changes her mind, I’m first in line. It actually turns out that her sister is a reader of my blog as well. Small world we say. Yesterday, I felt the world get much smaller. 

On Myspace I received an incredible note. Whatever stress I’m going through or drama I perceive or create, this blog is a gift for me, and I am thankful for the friends I have made through it.

"I am in Baghdad and working as an intelligence analyst. Your articles have had perfect timing for me, despite the long hours I check in once in a while to see what you are up to. As you have been busy stressing about your book readings I have been preparing a brief for General Petraeus. I have been so incredibly nervous. Yesterday I briefed him and it went well. Of course there are things I wish I could have done differently, but all in all I am content. It is really one of the pinnacle points for an analyst to get a chance to share what we think about a situation for about 10-15 minutes with him, and he is quite the gentlemen and extremely intelligent. I had to give myself a pep talk the night before and literally rehearsed the brief in my head while falling asleep, practicing a conversational tone and pretending it was like rehearsing lines for a play.

Something I told myself is I need to realize there are just as many people who have supported me to get me to this point and believe in me as there are negative detractors who look to tear me down, this helps me balance my perspective and keeps me on game without being defensive. And, at the end of the day it is my opinion that matters. So, best of luck to you in all you are currently involved in and thank you for putting yourself out there.

Haha – I know this is much more than you asked for, and maybe you stopped reading after the first line, but it feels great to write it out."

When journalists ask me why I blog, I wish I could point them to emails like this. I receive so many touching notes, so encouraging, heartfelt, human. It’s a reminder, both in the writing and the reading, that we’re not alone in the things we face and feel. Thank you for sharing all you do with me.




  1. I travel a lot for work and find your blog a perfect morning diversion to keep me groundd. Thank you.

  2. The ability to put yourself out there seems foriegn to me. I am a closed person in terms of what I tell my friends or family. I think it is because I was brought up in a home where we had a public face of being all neatly buttoned and together it creeped into our behind closed doors lives.

  3. When you're in Chicago for yor book tour in June, if you want to see the city's best hair stylist, go see Dave at Salon Envy. He is AMAZING, and he will make you look & feel dynamite.

  4. thats incredible. Blogging is fulfilling because it validates your own thoughts and feeling as well as others, I completely agree with you. Being able to share parts of yourself that are personal (or not) and having others out there to give you a "high five!" or an "amen." makes blogging so gratifying.

  5. I love checking into your blog when I see it is updated into my reader.

    I moved the country 12 years ago and still drive to Pittsburgh to get my hair done. Sad. Really, that is just sad to have to do that. Of course, my hair only looks good for about 12 hours after that salon trip… after that I am no walking advertisement for my stylist.

  6. Amen, sister. Amen. Without question, your blog style, the honesty and genuineness, inspired the way I express myself in my little corner of the blogosphere.

  7. I am bummed you aren't making it over to the Pacific Northwest. Any particular reason? Hopefully I'll be able to catch you at BlogHer!

  8. Oh no! Houston has been removed from the list! I had it on my calendar on June 11, but it looks like it got dropped. DRAT. I will try to make it to one of the Austin ones then hopefully. Congratulations!

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