I've been a fan for some time now, but this is the first time I am writing. The scarves as tops – beautiful. Will you write a step-by-step process for doing that? You must use pins or something? Also, I wonder if you have seen the products under bath and body on wishingfish.com? Tha body butter is amazing.

nm. i get it. oooops… =)

"It was my begging him to help me decide what to wear and wearing what I wanted to anyway (don't we all do that?!)."

Why does the species from Venus do that? We aren't any help to you in deciding what to wear, you won't listen to us, we don't usually care, and we hate that there has to be this conflict over something so unnecessary.

It's a mixture of dread and amusement when I am asked my opinion. 'Do I look fat in this outfit?' sends shivers down my spine.

STOP IT!

NOW!

Hmmm, I never said anything about a "new look" and I really don't see any difference. You still look great. You seem happier.

Stephanie…this is the perfect post on this dreary Friday morning in Chicago! I am honestly making a list of your products and running to Sephora after work tonight. I can't get enough of your blog! :)

Don't listen to any criticism you receive from wearing scarves as shirts or as anything else. The scarves are lovely, and yes, I would wear a shirt with those prints. Keep the scarves. Go buy some more even. You look particularly nice in the turquoise. I would love it if you would include some sort of instruction for turning a scarf into a shirt, because I live in Florida and this is a look I think I could pull off well down here.

Would it be weird if I say that you're much prettier in person? Because it's true. Let's just say the pictures don't do you justice. And being that I have to go to Aveda to stock up this weekend, I'll have to get some be curly.

Suitor,

Sorry to say, but I was referring to Stephanie's "new" hair/makeup look. Although I'm pretty sure that part of that new glow comes from how happy she seems to be (with you).

Nars' revenues are going through the roof this weekend when I hit Sephora!

Thanks for the suggestions – girlie posts are my fav!

OK, as long as we're girling it up, I have to ask, how do you get/keep your curls separate? I'd have fabulous hair too (kinda like yours, only black) if I could figure out this one elusive bit. I've tried every product under the sun, even Be Curly, but can't figure out how to get the curls separate without coming out crunchy or oily. Extra shiny works for lighter hair, but on dark hair it just looks like the 3rd day post shampoo. Help!

I got all testy when I read that he doesn't like your scarves… I love my husband, but the day that he starts giving me unwanted fashion advice is the day that I remind him about all his old awful cosby sweaters and wide wale corduroy shorts that I had to get rid of. I got the scarf idea from you and rocked it just last month…And it looked cute in bright flashy prints….

If you look at the New Year's picture linked to this post to show your top, your face is about 5 shades darker and more orange than the rest of your body.

Joey B. – that line caught me too. It's a pet peeve of mine when someone asks me a question but then doesn't actually want to know what my answer is. I think it's rude.

But when trying to decide what to wear, sometimes there are a million and a half factors being taken under consideration. How it fits, how it looks, how comfortable it is, how it feels, how it makes us feel, what mood we're in, what mood we think we'll be in later, what statement it makes, what shoes will go with it, where and when we last wore it, who saw us. The list goes on. Your input is sometimes just one piece of information being taken into consideration. It's unnecessarily complicated, I know.

On a different note, I'm really digging the scarf tops. I've read before that you wore scarfs as tops but I assumed you meant the whole "fold in half then wrap around your torso and tie in the back" thing that was hot for a while. I never liked that look, but the way you do it looks classy and unique (but maybe not so unique now with all of us wanting to try it!). Thanks for sharing that idea.

Hmm I'm having trouble posting a comment:
Stephanie- love your eyeshadows- the pink shades– any suggestions or brands you like?

Nars really should send you a gift basket or something this weekend!
Love you and your writing, and best wishes for your book this year!

I wont ever understand the desire to post entries detailing your choice in makeup, clothing, comments on the aforementioned by your boyfriend, etc, but that is your prerogative, and its a free country, so god bless you. But the question i must ask is dont any of your friends feel uncomfortable about you posting pictures of them, and stories about your outings, for a world of strangers to read/see? And i would think it would be less of an issue of them protecting their privacy, and more a question of them feeling completely foolish about the whole concept.

Now, i am a guy, so the following comparison is not really apples to apples. But i can say, with 100% cetainty, that if i was to have a blog similar to yours, my friends would mock me relentlessly, but they wouldnt really give a shit. BUT, if i was to post pictures of them as well, they would probably beat me senseless. Now, they also wouldnt be actively posing for said photos, but if i was taking photos like many people do, and then was to post them on my blog, i would receive a guaranteed throttling.

So, do they enjoy the whole experience, do any of your friends request that you do not include them on your blog? You may very well have a variety of friends that do make this request, and consequently, we do not see photos of them. But i have wondered this for quite some time, so i figured i would ask, because again, its a free country. And one last item, does your boyfriend receive endless abuse for being included in this blog? I am happy for you that i guess he himself doesnt care, but i cant imagine that as a guy he doesnt take at least some abuse from his friends/colleagues for his inclusion (especially the posed photos).

And again, as you have said many times, its your life/blog, you can do what you want, and i respect that, but i had to ask.

Thanks.

Hi Stephanie…I love the scarf idea but how do you take care of your scarves…do you dry clean them after wearing them? Or do you find special mixed blend scarves that you can wash and wear. I was always told to try not to dry clean scarves, the nicer designer scarves too much but to just put them over sweaters and outfits so they don't absorb body oil or perspiration directly. I think you look fantastic in the scarves though…very bohemian preppy…reminds me of the look I tried to achieve in grad school.

Alice

Hey Stephanie — as a former fattie who is now passing for thin, I think I'm ready to do the scarf thing. Here in Las Vegas, I can probably wear them all year! What size scarves work best for you?

You may be starting a trend…may I make a suggestion? Why don't you have your readers email pictures of themselves to you wearing the Stephanie Klein Scarf Top and you can post them in a photo gallery on your site? It would be fun to see how many people participate in the project and good to see what the other posters look like. What say ye, Miss Steph?

RANDOM JOE…
You really must not understand the whole idea of "blogging". Welcome to 2006, hun.

I'm sorry to say it, but I agree with one of the earlier comments that you should lay off the bronzer a bit. You look much prettier when you are more natural. I can't believe how superficial I am to even write this, but I guess you've invited this sort of gentle (and hopefully constructive) criticism.

Totally rocked the scarf as a shirt today. I love the internet. :)

I just need to hop on the product bandwagon here…Kiehls Superbly Efficient Anti-Perspirant Deodorant and Cream is the best thing ever invneted. As it is a cream, it rubs right in, with no messy white crap that gets all over clothing. It has no weird deodorant overpowering smell, like so many of them have and the best part is…really really keeps you dry. Nary a sweat ring or even a droplet since I started using this last march!

A S PART of my compulsive late-night television viewing ­ the more low-brow, the better ­ I have watched endless repeats of a show called Mind of the Married Man. No, this doesn't plump any great psychological depths, but basically tells the story of a bunch of jour nalists who are in the process of cheating on their wives ­ or would very much like to. It's not that they don't love the good women ­ by God, they do! ­ but it's just that one gets tired of cheese and macaroni (not to mention sensible underwear) every night. Just on occasion, it feels good to dip into a forbidden can of caviar or gorge on foie gras. And feasting on frankly indecent lingerie has a frisson of its own.
But amidst all this adultery and occasional angst, one particular scene has stuck with me. The friends are playing pool at a bar when a drop-dead gorgeous, supermodel-type woman walks in. After everybody has lifted their jaws off the floor, one of the men grunts, "Let me tell you something. I bet that no matter how hot she looks to us, there is a man somewhere who is tired of f…ing her." Much laughter all around, until it turns out that she is the wife of one of their colleagues, and he still finds her very hot, thank you very much (well, give it time…).

So much for the minds of married men. But I have to say, with some degree of shame, that this particular throwaway line keeps popping up in my head. And there is a good reason for that. Look around you. No matter how hot a woman may look to you and me, there is no denying that there is a man somewhere who is tired of f….ing her.

At least, if it was just down to ordinary folk, you could under stand. After all, no matter how attractive and sexy a woman may be in the first flush of youth, a couple of kids, the demands of domesticity and inevitable pull of gravity does take its toll on her appearance. And if, as psychologists would have us believe, the first flush of romantic love (or lust, call it what you will) only lasts for a year or so, then it becomes easy to understand ­ if not, forgive ­ the strayings of our men folk. No matter how much they love their wives /girlfriends, the appeal of fresh meat is hard to resist ­ in fact, it is well nigh impossible for some men.

So, while women may bemoan their lot, go on starvation diets, indulge in a bit of plastic surgery, and even agree to some of the more bizarre sexual practices (and believe me, threesomes are the least of it), to lure their straying menfolk back, in their hearts they know it is a losing battle.

You may well get new boobs (or lift your existing ones) and fresh highlights to present yourself to the man in your life in the guise of a brand new woman. But no matter how hard you try and how good you look, there's no winning this bout, baby. He's been there, done that and frankly he'd rather move on than move backwards.

To give credit where it is due, most women understand that. And they are willing to trade in that first flush of sexual excitement for the familiarity and comfort that a long-term relationship brings with it. Okay, so their men may stray occasionally, but which man doesn't, goes the argument (even if it isn't always articulated in these terms).

But what I find harder to understand is why Goddesses have to cope with the same travails as ordinary women folk. I mean, seriously, if you were married to Halle Berry (you wish!) why would you cheat on her on a regular basis as her former husband did ­ and spare me all that bullshit about `sex addiction'. If you were Uma Thurman's husband, would you sneak off behind her back and play nooky with a nurse (okay, among showbiz folk, the rule is that it doesn't count on location, but even so).

And if you were engaged to the fragrant Sienna Miller, would you get all hot and heavy with the help on the grounds that your fiancée wasn't around to fulfill your needs?

This kind of behaviour may seem bizarre to women but for men, whether they are married to Jennifer Aniston or the girl next door ­ or is that the same thing? ­ this is pretty much par for the course. Confront them with it and the standard response is, "Oh, but darling, it didn't mean anything. It was just sex."

And then, they can't figure out why the women in question are cutting their trousers off at the crotch. Perhaps, it would help if the women responded, "Oh, but darling, it didn't mean anything. It was just revenge."

OK Ritu, that was a long-ass comment. I can't say enough for being a lesbian …. it's great! You should try it. You won't have all those pesky man-problems to deal with.

>^..^<

Ritu, are you a man or a woman? Oy vey!!!!!!!!!!

And to think that just one year ago you tried to pawn yourself off as being so over your JAPpiness! Girl, as this post demonstrated, you're about as JAPpy as they come!!! If you doubt me, read your own posting on being a JAP from November '04.