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  1. there's always room for dessert! heck, why even gamble on it, just order the courses backwards.

  2. I guess I am too thick too get your point. That abstention makes things simpler, but it is hard to abstain? But what does that have to do with game playing?

    Yes, once you get older, it is more difficult too date and find a mate, for a whole bunch of reasons. But what is the alternative? Wait for Ms/Mr Right to approach you in the supermarket? Not a great alternative, unless you happen to be the type that attracts that type. either way it can be anxiety provoking. But as they say (whoever they are), you have to be in it to win it.

  3. yes, that is the rub, so to speak. You feel like you have to try, for the sake of trying.

  4. At first glance, I thought you said, "become a moron." And I thought, you know, now that makes some sense. Ignorance is bliss. Dumb people really do have easier lives.

  5. and here's why dating is dumb

    "you have to be in it to win it"
    "you'll find it when you're not looking for it"

    well which one is it?

  6. There is nothing moronic about being a mormon. Lobster or Cracked Crab? Can't we have both?

  7. It's hard to believe that you're not reading my mind. I'm perfectly stress free and happy when I'm not dating someone I like, but as soon as I start to I become filled with anxiety and start worrying and analyzing all the time. It's funny, I called my best friend last night and she was busy. When she called me back she was wondering if something was wrong because it was a little late. Nothing was wrong, I told her, was just calling to chat. And I said come to think of it, nothing is ever wrong unless I'm in a relationship, which is kind of sad.

  8. Funny suggestion about becoming a mormon. Now that would be some lifestyle change. Now everyone take two minutes to picture this….

    Steph would have to give up alcohol, cursing, candy, soda, and anything that is considered to be bad for your body. She also would have to spend a couple of years on a mission spreading the word of god door to door in some extremely rural place. Then again, she would also get married very quickly and be popping out kids every year until she had a family of twelve.

    Talk about a 180 degree shift in reality.

  9. Yes Tom, she could talk her way into having 5 or 6 husbands. That way she could play the field, and not have to worry about impressing anyone. I hope your laughing at this Stephanie, I'm only trying too make you smile.

  10. I'd like to say, that being raised Mormon, I was never dumb. And I hung with it until my early twenties. But it's late and I don't have time to tackle that statement, much less the stack of miconceptions Tom delivered.

  11. Um, I hope you all understand I don't think there is anything dumb about MORMONS. I thought the comment said become a "MORON," not MORMON. And sometimes I wish I were a MORON; life would be more simple simon.

  12. It was the "other shoe to drop." comment that got me this time. It reverberated through my life and echoes in my wife's behavior. Even now, 8 years of commitment and I feel like she is constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop.

    Something always gets me when you expose yourself to the world. In the last post it was the pregnancy poem that sliced a knife through my gut and brought tears to my eyes at my desk.

  13. mormon….doorman……..norman,all the same dont you know,but it's all one big game anyway steph.
    so you play a little then you play a little more and if it becomes a bore and you get sore you just dont play no more.
    wise up janet weiss…keep on playing,it fills my empty hours!!!
    how's the pooch
    serendipity yours
    matt haywood

  14. what would the audience say to this proposition:

    First, assume you're not inherently insecure.

    IF, while dating person X, you end up agonizing as you are waiting for his/her call or next letter/move, rather than *anticipating* his/her next call, THEN he/she isn't the giving you what you need and your agony is your unconscious recognition that it's time to move on.

    But on the other hand if you are eagerly, positively *anticipating* the next kiss, next meeting, message, massage, etc, then you've not reached the end of your run together.

    It's the big dilemma of 'gotta be in it to win it' and 'gotta be in it to get hurt'.

    I suppose not being at risk is not really living. [said from the 'tranquil' waters of a recently date-ignoring existence]

    If we think we're only happy when not dating, while simultaneously maintaining we want to *not* be alone, should that be called dating-denial?

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