INFJ

In ALL, MY LISTS by Stephanie Klein

Your actions are frequently influenced by emotions.
Yes.  I rarely do anything I don’t want to do, unless someone dies.  Then I go to funerals because you have to.  I attend the important holidays because it makes old people happy.  For the most part, though, everything I do is guided by my emotions.
You often contemplate about the complexity of life.
I don’t know about the complexity of it.  I think about how unfair it can be.  How I wish there were more Audrey Hepburn movies with singing.  I believe in the power of the universe and being just a part of it.  I don’t think of it often, but when I do, I imagine it’s when I’m going through a hard time.  It’s when we rely on faith.  N.
You often do jobs in a hurry.
I don’t like the way this is phrased.  It implies hastily.  I get the job done quickly, but I don’t do jobs in a hurry.  N.
You find it difficult to speak loudly.
My grandfather, while alive, called me “The Mouth.”
You get bored if you have to read theoretical books.
I think people who think and pick at things tend to rely on circular logic, but I always play along.  Though, if it were just theory without proof, I wouldn’t enjoy it. I like psychology because there’s proof in it, statistically relevant proof.   A book of all theory is like dating a guy who’s all talk.  It’s exciting for a while, but then you just have to masturbate to get through it.  Y.
You value justice higher than mercy.
Tough call.  I hate to say it, but as feeling as I am, I’m a stickler for fair. Y.
The more people with whom you speak, the better you feel.
Depends on the people.  Usually if I speak with my father and one other friend, I’m good.  Speaking to more than that usually only confuses me.  Though it does help me feel better when I get to express myself , repeatedly.  As if talking it out, or writing it, helps me understand more.   So, no, the MORE people with whom I speak, I don’t feel better.  It’s with whom I’m speaking that really matters. N.
You like to keep a check on how things are progressing.
Oh yes.  I can’t leave a cake in the oven without checking on it.  I step on the scale mid-week.  I live for the relationship, “next step,” talks. Y.
You easily empathize with the concerns of other people.
Yes.
You are more inclined to experiment than to follow familiar approaches.
I don’t know anyone who would answer “no” to this.  Who answers that they always like to color in the lines?  I don’t even follow recipes! Y.
You avoid being bound by obligations.
Does anyone enjoy obligations?  I avoid them at all costs.  I’m the queen of, “let’s see how we’re feeling then, okay?”   It’s a lazy mood thing.  I hate having to commit to plans.  HATE.
You prefer to isolate yourself from outside noises.
“Outside noises” seems very ominous.  I think of car alarms, sirens, and the noises I like to keep out of my home by closing the window, even if it does mean it’s hot.  At least it’s hot and quiet.  But what about iPod noises, or the television or radio.  I suppose that’s not noise.  Well who likes noise?  I guess I prefer to isolate myself.  Weird question. Y.
It’s essential for you to try things with your own hands.
Absolutely.  I can’t just watch.  I have to do it.
You think that almost everything can be analyzed.
I’m not even going to dignify that with a response.
You are usually the first to react to a sudden event: the telephone ringing or unexpected question.
No.  Never.  I’m lazy, and I need to think and weigh things before acting on them.
You take pleasure in putting things in order.
Yes.  I love organizing.  Especially closets.  I’m at my best when everything is where it belongs.  It just so happens that my shoes belong anywhere I see fit.
You feel involved when watching TV soaps.
I don’t watch them anymore.  I used to.  I got sucked in.  Really, though, I was seriously sucked in by Temptation Island.  That show fed on my biggest insecurities.  I mean, I could get mad at the MID if some guy on the show did something horrible.  “You’d do that too, wouldn’t you?”  I was that kind of girl.  I still am, to a point.  I still ask those questions.  “Would you still love me if I only had one arm?”
“Which arm?” 
“I hate you.”
“Could I call you stump?”
We’d laugh, but secretly, I’d wonder if he would.  I play the “would you still love me if” game often.  Except no one really wants to play with me.  N.
You easily understand new theoretical principles.
Yes.  I don’t know why.  I just do.
The process of searching for solution is more important to you than the solution itself.
Yes.  I’m a girl.  I like to talk and connect.  It’s how we get there that matters. 
You usually place yourself nearer to the side than in the center of the room.
I’ve struggled with this question for a while.  I really don’t know.  Like, if we’re talking about a movie theatre, then I stick to the middle.  But if we’re talking about a bar, I’m a wall clinger.  I prefer to observe what’s going on.  But when I have my camera, I’m everywhere, trying to capture it all.  I don’t know where I place myself.  I guess to the side.  Y.
When solving a problem you would rather follow a familiar approach than seek a new one. 
I like the familiar if it works.  I seek a new one when the familiar stops working for me. Y.
You try to stand firmly by your principles.
Who answers no to this? Yes, I’m stubborn and sometimes too self-righteous.
It is easy for you to communicate in social situations. Y
You are consistent in your habits.
Isn’t a habit, by definition, something you do consistently?  Yes.
You willingly involve yourself in matters which engage your sympathies.
Oooh, another tough call.  Am I the one who gives advice regularly to friends?  Yes, and I put myself there.  But do I talk to strangers about their lives?  Well, yes.  Not a tough call, then, now is it?
You easily perceive various ways in which events could develop. 
Oh yes, it’s why it takes me forever to make up my mind.
A thirst for adventure is close to your heart.
No.  I like to learn every day, but “adventure” isn’t what I need. 
You prefer meeting in small groups to interaction with lots of people.
Absolutely.  Big birthday parties are torture.  I like to connect intimately.
When considering a situation you pay more attention to the current situation and less to a possible sequence of events.
Ugh.  I do both.  I’m a libra.  I don’t think I worry about the possible sequence of events.  When speaking with friends, they bring up consequences and walk me through them.  Usually, I get stuck on what I’m in and how I’ll act before even considering all the consequences.  I’m usually in the now.  Y.
You consider the scientific approach to be the best. 
I don’t know what the scientific approach is.  Being neat and orderly.  Keeping a control.  I don’t bother with any of it.  I go by my gut.  N.
You enjoy having a wide circle of acquaintances.
No.  I prefer a few close friends who are meaningful. 
You are almost never late for your appointments.
Almost always late.
You readily help people while asking nothing in return.
Surprisingly, yes. I didn’t think this was true, but I surveyed my most recent behavior, and it’s true.
You often spend time thinking of how things could be improved. 
Yes.  There’s another way to say this.  It goes something like, “you’re never really satisfied.”  Or, “you always want things to be as close to perfect as they can be, without being perfect, because perfect is sterile.”  Yes.
Your decisions are based more on the feelings of a moment than on the careful planning.  Y.
You prefer to spend your leisure time alone or relaxing in a tranquil family atmosphere.  Yes
You feel more comfortable sticking to conventional ways.
No.  I know it makes others more comfortable when I stick with convention, but I really don’t give a shit.
Objective criticism is always useful in any activity.
I don’t think it’s useful during sex.  It’s usually better to compliment strengths while approaching constructive criticism.  There is a time and place for it, but I wouldn’t say it’s ALWAYS useful in any activity.  Sometimes people learn with time.  I don’t think a new mother needs to hear any of it.  N.
You enjoy being at the center of events in which other people are directly involved.
I don’t understand this question.  Why wouldn’t  it just say, “you enjoy being the center of attention?”  In which other people are directly involved?  What does that mean?  I really don’t know.  Like, you want to be the casino dealer?  I don’t get it.  Someone explain.  Does it mean, you’d enjoy having a big wedding?  God, no.  But I like birthday parties, until I worry that no one will show up.  I will write Y.
You know how to put every minute of your time to good purpose.
No.  I sit around mostly.  But when I do, I’m thinking.  I don’t sit in front of the TV.  I am interested in many things, so I’m often busy with some project.  I’ll draw or write or read, or shower.  I guess so.  Y.
You are easily affected by strong emotions. Y.
You are always looking for opportunities. 
Yes and no.  I used to be, but now I’m so busy, that I’ve stopped to focus on what I’m up against now.  But for the most part, yes. 
Deadlines seem to you to be of relative, rather than absolute, importance.  N. 
After prolonged socializing you feel you need to get away and be alone. Y.
Your desk, workbench etc. is usually neat and orderly. Y.
You tend to be unbiased even if this might endanger your good relations with people.
Yes.  I’m straight up.
You like to be engaged in an active and fast-paced job. 
No.  I like things that take thought and stewing.  Research.  I love research.
You have good control over your desires and temptations. 
Good control, yes.  Great control, no.  I would never cheat in a relationship, but I’d cheat on a diet.  Does that qualify as yes or no?  I’ll say no based off the fact that I tend to follow what’s familiar and wanted, even if it’s not good for me.  I know it’s not the right thing to do, but it’s me.  For now.  And I’m okay with that, so back off.
You tend to sympathize with other people.  I guess so.
You easily see the general principle behind specific occurrences.  Yes.
You are inclined to rely more on improvisation than on careful planning.  Yes.  I hate plans.
You get pleasure from solitary walks.
No.  I don’t like just taking walks for the sake of it.  If however, I have a camera in hand, then yes, I prefer to be alone.  I’ll put down N.

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Reminder: Last year, I was INTP
Introverted 11%
Intuitive 56%
Thinking 22%
Perceiving 11%

This year: INFJ 
                   
Introverted  33%
Intuitive  25%
Feeling 38%
Judging 1%

"Beneath the quiet exterior, INFJs hold deep convictions about the weightier matters of life. Those who are activists — INFJs gravitate toward such a role — are there for the cause, not for personal glory or political power.

INFJs are champions of the oppressed and downtrodden. They often are found in the wake of an emergency, rescuing those who are in acute distress. INFJs may fantasize about getting revenge on those who victimize the defenseless. The concept of ‘poetic justice’ is appealing to the INFJ.

"There’s something rotten in Denmark." Accurately suspicious about others’ motives, INFJs are not easily led. These are the people that you can rarely fool any of the time. Though affable and sympathetic to most, INFJs are selective about their friends. Such a friendship is a symbiotic bond that transcends mere words.

INFJs have a knack for fluency in language and facility in communication. In addition, nonverbal sensitivity enables the INFJ to know and be known by others intimately.

Writing, counseling, public service and even politics are areas where INFJs frequently find their niche."

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"The Counselor Idealists are abstract in thought and speech, cooperative in reaching their goals, and directive and introverted in their interpersonal roles. Counselors focus on human potentials, think in terms of ethical values, and come easily to decisions. The small number of this type (little more than 2 percent) is regrettable, since Counselors have an unusually strong desire to contribute to the welfare of others and genuinely enjoy helping their companions. Although Counsleors tend to be private, sensitive people, and are not generally visible leaders, they nevertheless work quite intensely with those close to them, quietly exerting their influence behind the scenes with their families, friends, and colleagues. This type has great depth of personality; they are themselves complicated, and can understand and deal with complex issues and people.

Counselors can be hard to get to know. They have an unusually rich inner life, but they are reserved and tend not to share their reactions except with those they trust. With their loved ones, certainly, Counselors are not reluctant to express their feelings, their face lighting up with the positive emotions, but darkening like a thunderhead with the negative. Indeed, because of their strong ability to take into themselves the feelings of others, Counselors can be hurt rather easily by those around them, which, perhaps, is one reason why they tend to be private people, mutely withdrawing from human contact. At the same time, friends who have known a Counselor for years may find sides emerging which come as a surprise. Not that they are inconsistent; Counselors value their integrity a great deal, but they have intricately woven, mysterious personalities which sometimes puzzle even them.

Counselors have strong empathic abilities and can become aware of another’s emotions or intentions — good or evil — even before that person is conscious of them. This "mind-reading" can take the form of feeling the hidden distress or illnesses of others to an extent which is difficult for other types to comprehend. Even Counselors can seldom tell how they came to penetrate others’ feelings so keenly. Furthermore, the Counselor is most likely of all the types to demonstrate an ability to understand psychic phenomena and to have visions of human events, past, present, or future. What is known as ESP may well be exceptional intuitive ability-in both its forms, projection and introjection. Such supernormal intuition is found frequently in the Counselor, and can extend to people, things, and often events, taking the form of visions, episodes of foreknowledge, premonitions, auditory and visual images of things to come, as well as uncanny communications with certain individuals at a distance."