Comments on: he said, she said: it ain’t so pretty when we fight http://stephanieklein.com/2009/11/he-said-she-said-it-aint-so-pretty-when-we-fight.html author, photographer, screenwriter Stephanie Klein Mon, 15 Mar 2010 14:00:13 -0400 hourly 1 By: MominTX http://stephanieklein.com/2009/11/he-said-she-said-it-aint-so-pretty-when-we-fight.html/comment-page-1#comment-57415 MominTX Mon, 21 Dec 2009 22:40:34 +0000 http://stephanieklein.com/?p=4605#comment-57415 I completely agree with you, Stephanie. I've seen many a 3-5 year old that behaves for (authoritative) Mommy but the second she walks away - all bets are off. I think people are reactiing to the word "negotiation". Everything I have read also talks about giving toddlers some control over their little worlds to avoid temper tantrums. Which is limited choices that many people have described. I don't think it's the end of the world for the two of you to have slightly different parenting styles just like I'm sure you both play differently with them. They have two different relationships with each of you and you are individuals. I just think you both need to respect the other's style and not jump in and undermine. I completely agree with you, Stephanie. I’ve seen many a 3-5 year old that behaves for (authoritative) Mommy but the second she walks away – all bets are off. I think people are reactiing to the word “negotiation”. Everything I have read also talks about giving toddlers some control over their little worlds to avoid temper tantrums. Which is limited choices that many people have described.

I don’t think it’s the end of the world for the two of you to have slightly different parenting styles just like I’m sure you both play differently with them. They have two different relationships with each of you and you are individuals. I just think you both need to respect the other’s style and not jump in and undermine.

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