http://stephanieklein.com/2009/11/being-single-tastes-like-saffron-cream-sauce-with-leeks.html author, photographer, screenwriter Stephanie Klein Sat, 13 Mar 2010 04:44:19 -0500 hourly 1 http://stephanieklein.com/2009/11/being-single-tastes-like-saffron-cream-sauce-with-leeks.html/comment-page-1#comment-56948 Tiffany Mon, 23 Nov 2009 19:08:23 +0000 http://stephanieklein.com/?p=4672#comment-56948 This exchange echoes exactly arguments I have with my husband, but about other things. Maybe it's a male pattern, or maybe Phil and Aaron (my husband) have similar personalities, but one of the things we often stumble over in resolving our many conflicts is that he over-generalizes and exaggerates to make a point, and I nail him on the specifics to prove he's wrong. The truth is probably somewhere in the middle. It may be that you don't make him do the dishes anymore, and maybe it's not actually a 7-8 hour process, but his overall point is probably true. My husband spends inordinate amounts of time on the internet, blogging, or working on music. I zone out to tv or get really into a book. The consequence is that stuff just doesn't get done, and we're each mad at the other for being selfish. We all have to sacrifice to make it work, because family life requires too much of us to allow spending that much time on the things we like to do. Bummer, I know, but reality. This exchange echoes exactly arguments I have with my husband, but about other things. Maybe it’s a male pattern, or maybe Phil and Aaron (my husband) have similar personalities, but one of the things we often stumble over in resolving our many conflicts is that he over-generalizes and exaggerates to make a point, and I nail him on the specifics to prove he’s wrong. The truth is probably somewhere in the middle. It may be that you don’t make him do the dishes anymore, and maybe it’s not actually a 7-8 hour process, but his overall point is probably true. My husband spends inordinate amounts of time on the internet, blogging, or working on music. I zone out to tv or get really into a book. The consequence is that stuff just doesn’t get done, and we’re each mad at the other for being selfish. We all have to sacrifice to make it work, because family life requires too much of us to allow spending that much time on the things we like to do. Bummer, I know, but reality.

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